I must forgive! I will forgive! I have forgiven!

—Are you really ready for an upgrade? Part 2

I must forgive! I will forgive! I have forgiven!

No one likes to be held hostage for something they have done. No one wants a constant reminder that they are wrong. Everyone would love for their slate to be wiped clean, but you can always tell whether or not you have forgiven. The very thing, person, or circumstance you have forgiven is no longer a problem for you. You can talk about it, share it with others, and actually allow the experience to be a testimony for others. Thinking about the many Oprah shows I have watched over the years and how many people have come forth, forgiving rape victims, forgiving molesters, parents who have failed, husbands and wives who have cheated and so much more… Everyone had to make a choice not only to become public with their forgiveness but making a choice to forgive. Letting it go so they can be a healthy person.
Harboring things in your past is not only painful for you but those around you. Agreeing with Wesley that unforgivness is a parasite or even a cancer that is set out to kill you, and it will kill the relationships around you. Why? Holding onto pain it eventually turns into bitterness resentment, depression, hostility just to name a few.
It is very important in our lives whether married, single, divorced, to let things go and don’t hold onto yesterday. God saw the way things were going before they even happened.
Matthew 6:14
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
There was a point in my life where I had to forgive myself and my past. There was a point in my marriage where I began to snap at Wes for various things, I began to get offended for every little thing he said and the way he said it. I especially began to get offended when he spoke to me and told me I needed to get some professional help. So frustrated by his ongoing comments, I decided to seek out wise counsel, only to have found out that I had so much unforgivness in my heart. I was hurt by the way my childhood went; I was walking in condemnation about circumstances at the early part of my marriage. As I continued my sessions, I learned that I really had not forgiven many areas in my life.
I made a choice to forgive, first forgive myself and then others who had no idea that they had done anything wrong Until I made this choice, and decided to become healthy, it was only then when I noticed a change in my home, husband and children and others around me.
One of my favorite scriptures….create in me a clean heart and renew the right spirit within me….
Such a simple verse yet it appears to be one of the hardest things in the world today for people to do. Especially in marriage. Learning to let go, Learning to be free, when you hold onto things and choose not to forgive, it affects every area of your life. You will not be able to fulfill the true plan God has for you. You will not have a happy marriage and also unforgiveness will spread like a cancer to your children.
So today choose to forgive, know that this is the only way to have a “whole” you, and then a healthy life and healthy marriage and a happier you! Choose to be free ! We must say I must I will, and I have forgiven. We must pray and ask God to forgive us and help us to move on. He is a God who definitely will do what you ask!
God Bless You!
Stay tuned for part 3 of “Are you ready for an upgrade”