The Lessons I Took Too Long To Learn – Part III

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The simplest definition of anger is:
an·ger (nggr) n. A strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.
If you continue looking at this definition it will give you synonyms which include wrath, rage, fury, resentment, and indignation. If you have ever suffered from an anger problem you know that though these synonyms are more intense in nature, they are sure to follow anger unleashed! Many of us consider our cause to be an indignation that is righteous and we justify unleashing strong emotion, feeling we are acting like God in laying out what is right and what is wrong.

For years I had an anger problem. It stemmed from my inability to control certain situations where I felt violated. Now it took years for me to understand this simple revelation, and it resulted in untold costs. For one of the ways I would vent my anger was with a tongue that could take words that though they empowered me (at least for a moment) they could strip the hearer of their dignity and even personhood! I am not proud to write this today, but because I know that this is one of the greatest weapons the enemy uses to destroy relationships, I feel compelled to address it.

For those of you who are the victims of someone who vents their anger in your direction – if you could step back, you will see that the source of it is probably hurt feelings – often stemming from a feeling of rejection, or feeling unloved or unappreciated. It rarely stems from a person who has confidence, in fact quite the contrary.

For those of you who are using anger to try to get your way, I want you to consider the following verses:

“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, he who rules his [own] spirit than he who takes a city.” Proverbs 16:32 (AMP)

“Smart people know how to hold their tongue;
their grandeur is to forgive and forget.” Proverbs 19:11 (MSG)

“Control your temper,
for anger labels you a fool.” Ecclesiastes 7:9 (NLT)

“Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31

If you reference anger in scripture, you will find pages of examples of anger and most of them are attributed to God. Even if you could place yourself in the place of God, (which you can’t) – can you say this:

“He gets angry once in a while, but across
a lifetime there is only love.
The nights of crying your eyes out
give way to days of laughter. ” Psalm 30:5 (MSG)

We can feel that our anger is justified; when we’re sorry and full of remorse, we can feel as if we can make it up to the individual – but words have power – and words said in anger have a tendency to make deep imprints into the heart of the hearer and sometimes do irreparable damage.

God has called us to love, not wrath; mercy, not judgement; reconciliation not retaliation – can I say to you, what God has said to me, “it’s tight – but it’s right!”

God Bless You,
Maria